Ostracism: the fear of standing out, the fear of criticism, the fear of ridicule, and the fear of being an outcast.
“The fear of being different prevents most people from seeking new ways to solve their problems.” – Robert T. Kiyosak
But, don’t we all feel this in one way or another? It can be paralysing at times. Crippling in fact. Debilitating. People need to ‘fit in’. Doing something, ANYTHING different can be I-feel-sick-to-my-stomach challenging. But why? If you take a step back and look at this, isn’t it ridiculous! Isn’t it (darkly) hilarious! We are all walking around trying to ‘fit in’, with our friends, culture, society, groups, people we know, people we don’t know. But there IS no IN. Unless it’s conforming to exactly that same dogma. No thank you. But the fear is SO REAL. It’s sickeningly really. It’s I-could-actually-vomit real. So deeply rooted in us is to ‘fit in’, to ‘be part of’ the group, not ‘a part of’. But most independent thinkers, dreamers, world changes are. Well, they all are. Where did their courage come from? How could they push through this biologically rooted fear, and many can’t?
I know I have to write about what I want to write about. To talk about what I want to talk about. To live my life the way I really want to live it. There’s no going back now. In some ways, I wish there was. It was easier. Fitting in. Not speaking up. Not putting thoughts out there. It was easier. But if I continued down that path it would have killed me, day by day.
So now, I surrender. To not fitting in. To ridicule. To judgement. To the fear of being ‘an outcast’. If I am or not, doesn’t really matter. But I’ll be taking more and more steps forward to see what’s on the other side of ostracism.